Comments on: Mothers to BHG Author – Thou Shalt Not Tell Us You Hate Our Kids

By: LeaningLactivist

LeaningLactivist — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 16:14:02 +0000

Welcome Janelle =)

It’s very interesting to see how things have changed since the 1940′s (at least in the images of US mothers breastfeeding). I have many archival photos saved of mothers breastfeeding exactly as you describe and the men around them are

going on about their business as though it’s nothing!

Here’s a link from PhD in Parenting that discusses the modesty issue. There’s been a lot said on “discreet” and there’s a lot more that can be said! I’m thinking I’ll be sharing something before the summer is over.

By: Janelle

Janelle — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 10:10:32 +0000

I was reading through a few of the comments on the commandments post and its curious to me that so many women and men feel comfortable with breastfeeding as long as it is “modest” or the woman is “draped properly”. I personally do not drape nor do I pull up my shirt. I pull my shirt down under my breast and while that may seem like a lot of exposure because I have a rather large breast, its a lot less flesh than my belly at the moment.
But why is it that its anyone’s business how much flesh I expose? Really, I’m having a hard time understanding. Is modesty something that can really be legislated?
I might be considered a little more on the lactivist while in public side of things. I breastfeed as though I were in my living room wherever I go on purpose both to make other women comfortable doing it and to get others used to it so other women won’t get so much shit for it.
I’ve only been screamed at once so far.
Thanks for what you do.

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By: Joanna

Joanna — Mon, 24 May 2010 21:29:50 +0000

Hi there,

I wanted to comment to let you know we read your post and the comments on it. You are absolutely correct–the blog post gave incorrect information and was rude and offensive in its tone. We are very sorry it was published and have issued an apology: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/food/the-9-commandments-of-dining-with-little-kids-1466320/.

Of course, we would never advocate discrimination toward any person, no matter his or her age!

Best,
Joanna

Joanna Linberg
Assistant Editor
Better Homes and Gardens

By: Annie @ PhD in Parenting

Annie @ PhD in Parenting — Mon, 24 May 2010 20:24:47 +0000

Kelly:

This is another fabulous adult privilege post by @ghostlove:

http://shutupsitdown.co.uk/2009/11/16/the-adult-privilege-checklist/

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:50:59 +0000

Thank you so much.

By: LeaningLactivist

LeaningLactivist — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:48:32 +0000

Kelly, Renee's article is a great place to start. Arwyn at Raising My Boychick also cover this (as well as Annie at PhD in Parenting) Jill/Twisty at I Blame the Patriarchy also has an AWESOME quote that I just could not make work based on what I wanted to talk about.

“Kids” are a class of people around the discrimination, domination, indoctrination, and abuse of whom entire cultures, industries, pathologies, and oppressive social systems flourish. Youth is temporary for the individual, yes, but a youth class persists; there is a constant supply of replacement children to keep this class well-stocked with hapless victims. Furthermore, the damage inflicted by expertly administered adult oppression techniques hardly vanishes the moment a kid turns 18.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:12:28 +0000

Thank you so, so much for this article and round-up.

This is the first time I’ve read “adult privilege” but I know what you are talking about and I would love, love to be directed to other places that take up this issue.

Thank you again.